Dr. David goes beyond simply curing sexual dysfunctions to show couples how to grow closer in their marriage... he makes available to the general public his highly successful and untraditional approach to sex and marital therapy. He reveals how a passionate sex life requires each person to face the anxiety of defining himself/herself while getting closer to their partner, a process he calls differentiation. PASSIONATE MARRIAGE offers explicit discussion of sexual behavior, practical tips, and details of couples going through the "people-growing" crucibles inherent in emotionally committed relationships. In this respectful, erotic, uplifting, and spiritual guide to sexual and emotional fulfillment, Dr. David seeks to bring out the best in each of us, to help us love on life's terms, and to develop an invigorating adult sexuality.
1) Dr. Schnarch's solution to "emotional gridlock" is to encourage you to maintain your integrity -- i.e. to "hold on to" yourself -- without pushing your spouse away: to be who you really are, and to let your spouse see who you really are, while at the same time letting your spouse know that you love and value your spouse and the relationship. The result is that you feel authentic in the relationship and your partner is given a chance to know and love the "real" you (and vice-versa)... It can be an extremely painful process because it forces you to confront that fact that no one -- including your spouse -- can every fully "complete you," but it is an extremely hopeful process because it opens the door for you and your spouse to really see and love each other other for who you really are.
2) ... one of his principle premises is that you can't separate marriage counseling from sexual therapy... 2nd warning: there is a lot of sexually explicit sex in this which was rather shocking to me at first (but might serve to interest a disinterested spouse for a few pages!!)...