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Wife (or husband) doesn't want sex
It is estimated that one of every three married couples struggles with problems associated with mismatched sexual desire.
In every couple, there will be a HDP (High Desire Partner) and a LDP (Low Desire Partner). The issue isn't the difference in level of desire, but how they deal with that difference.
1)... I wanted to keep the peace, so I acquiesced whenever he wanted it, without complaining. As the years went by however, I really started dreading it. I was sick and tired of sex. Finally I decided to talk to him about it.
I told him how I felt, but it made him so angry he gave me the silent treatment for more than a week. I had read somewhere that scheduling sex for every saturday worked for some couples in this situation, so to try and break him out of the silent treatment, I offered that suggestion. He was not happy, but agreed to try it. This didn't work either. 5 years later, we are still having sex every saturday, but I still dread sex, I find it revolting and if we didn't have kids I'd probably divorce him. This sex issue is serious, but also complicated. Read more.
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Books for "Wife (or husband) doesn't want sex"
The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple's Guide
By Michele Weiner DavisReview
1) My wife and I have been fighting about sex for over ten years. When we first got married, sex was great with each passing year, she wanted less and less. Our fights have gotten uglier because I've been so frustrated. I've suggested that she go to her doctor but her only response is that "its my problem." That's how our fights always end...
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
By David Schnarch Review
1) Dr. Schnarch's solution to "emotional gridlock" is to encourage you to maintain your integrity -- i.e. to "hold on to" yourself -- without pushing your spouse away: to be who you really are, and to let your spouse see who you really are, while at the same time letting your spouse know that you love and value your spouse and the relationship. The... more
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
By Ian Kerner Review
1) My partner is the original John Wayne - to the core. And for him to read a "how to" book on anything just isn't going to happen. Well, he doesn't have a lot of experience in the art of pleasing a woman...you know, cowboys just get on and ride! Well, somehow, he heard about this book and has it ever made a difference. A difference in everything -... more
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun)
By Sheila Wray GregoireReview
1) The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex is a fun way of learning about your body (as a woman, sorry guys this really is all about the lady's) and the way your body is when you're enjoying great sex. Please let me preface this, Sheila Wray Gregoire made this book for lady's having sex in the marriage bed. If you're not doing that, you probably will re... more
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