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Wife (or husband) doesn't want sex

Stats

It is estimated that one of every three married couples struggles with problems associated with mismatched sexual desire.

Causes

In every couple, there will be a HDP (High Desire Partner) and a LDP (Low Desire Partner). The issue isn't the difference in level of desire, but how they deal with that difference.

Examples

1)... I wanted to keep the peace, so I acquiesced whenever he wanted it, without complaining. As the years went by however, I really started dreading it. I was sick and tired of sex. Finally I decided to talk to him about it.

I told him how I felt, but it made him so angry he gave me the silent treatment for more than a week. I had read somewhere that scheduling sex for every saturday worked for some couples in this situation, so to try and break him out of the silent treatment, I offered that suggestion. He was not happy, but agreed to try it. This didn't work either. 5 years later, we are still having sex every saturday, but I still dread sex, I find it revolting and if we didn't have kids I'd probably divorce him. This sex issue is serious, but also complicated. Read more.

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Books for "Wife (or husband) doesn't want sex"


The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple's Guide
By Michele Weiner Davis
Review 1) My wife and I have been fighting about sex for over ten years. When we first got married, sex was great with each passing year, she wanted less and less. Our fights have gotten uglier because I've been so frustrated. I've suggested that she go to her doctor but her only response is that "its my problem." That's how our fights always end... Th... more

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships
By David Schnarch
Review 1) Dr. Schnarch's solution to "emotional gridlock" is to encourage you to maintain your integrity -- i.e. to "hold on to" yourself -- without pushing your spouse away: to be who you really are, and to let your spouse see who you really are, while at the same time letting your spouse know that you love and value your spouse and the relationship. The... more

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
By Ian Kerner
Review 1) My partner is the original John Wayne - to the core. And for him to read a "how to" book on anything just isn't going to happen. Well, he doesn't have a lot of experience in the art of pleasing a woman...you know, cowboys just get on and ride! Well, somehow, he heard about this book and has it ever made a difference. A difference in everything -... more

Dr. Ruth's Top Ten Secrets for Great Sex: How to Enjoy it, Share it, and Love it Each and Every Time
By Ruth K. Westheimer
Review 1) Dr. Ruth really gets it: "the truth is that too many of us allow our sexlife to be drowned under the flood of all the other activities fighting for our attention, from work and family matters to watching TV, playing video games, answering emails, chatting online..." She urges you to make sex a priority and empowers you with the right reasoning a... more

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun)
By Sheila Wray Gregoire
Review 1) The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex is a fun way of learning about your body (as a woman, sorry guys this really is all about the lady's) and the way your body is when you're enjoying great sex. Please let me preface this, Sheila Wray Gregoire made this book for lady's having sex in the marriage bed. If you're not doing that, you probably will re... more
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See a sex therapist

Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy that can help a couple with sex issues in their relationship.


Find a Sex Therapist near you

You can search by state, then look through therapists order by their city alphabetically. Lists the type of work they do and certification received.

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